How to become more assertive? These 5 tips will help you out

Wouldn’t it be great if you could speak more boldly, especially at work, and stake your ground and express yourself honestly? Being assertive isn’t always simple, but it’s also not impossible. If you are wondering how to do it, here’s some have expert-backed advice to help you become more assertive and understand the benefits.

What is assertiveness?

Assertiveness is a method of communicating. Assertive communication can help you express yourself in a way that puts your viewpoint, feelings, and thoughts across clearly, boldly, and assertively. Being assertive can help you balance your goals and needs with other people’s rights and needs. Recognize that it is founded on mutual respect and is not the same as being aggressive. Since there is such a fine line between the two, it’s easy for people to mix them up. Remember that assertiveness is a healthy and positive way of expressing yourself.

How to be more assertive?

Dr Hirak Patel, Counselling Psychologist, Fortis Hospital Mulund and Hiranandani Hospital, Vashi, spoke to Health Shots to explain easy ways to become assertive.

“There is a marked difference between being assertive and being rude. That is why people, especially professionals in the workspace, must find a balance between the two as this is something that a lot of people find difficult to maintain,” says Dr Patel.

5 habits to follow to become assertive in the way they communicate:

1. Understand assertiveness

If you want to learn how to assert yourself, you must first comprehend the concept. At every level, a person must comprehend and evaluate their communication abilities. They must be able to distinguish between aggressive and passive communication. Aggression stems from a sense of self-importance, whereas assertiveness is based on mutual respect. The more assertive you attempt to be, the more respected you will become. As a result, recognize and accept the distinction.

2. Don’t be guilty

It is about addressing your point of view in a clear manner, not about influencing other people’s opinions. As a result, a person should remember that aggressive communication is not improper and that there should be no guilt associated with it. Respectfully listen and confidently react.

3. Take time

When it comes to assertive communication, what you say and how you present yourself are crucial. So, if you’re having trouble coming up with an immediate reaction to a message, try modifying your response. Saying things such as “I’ll get back to you later” or “I need some time to think about it” are ideal examples.

4. Learn to say ‘no’

To become assertive, master two skills: setting limits and saying no when necessary. “Say ‘no’ whenever required as one needs to protect their boundaries and then make a choice accordingly. The same should be communicated to the other person as well,” says Dr Patel. If you have trouble setting limits, you may feel guilty. This is the only way to get rid of the guilt.

5. Practice assertive communication

Practicing assertive communication with someone whom you know is a good idea as it acts as a motivation and practise. Along with verbal language one should also focus on their body language as it is a critical part of overall. Also while practicing assertive communication focus on including “I” in your statements. This will help you understand your needs and feelings.