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Just been ghosted? Here are 10 effective ways of dealing with the hurt

Updated on:12 March 2021, 18:19pm IST
Ghosting occurs when someone suddenly stops responding to you. It can have a significant impact on your emotional health, but here’s how you can deal with it.
Aayushi Gupta
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Find out how to take care of yourself after you’ve been ghosted. Image courtesy: Shutterstock
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Ghosting has been a common practice when it comes to dating but it is only with the rise of social media that we’ve given a term to it! Be it your partner, friend, or anyone close to you, being ignored for no known reason is emotionally hurtful. In fact, it can be devastating. It basically refers to a situation where a person exits your life without any warning or sign.

It is, of course, extremely hurtful and disrespectful but you cannot do much to save yourself from it. Nonetheless, it can cause an extremely negative impact on your mental health. You can, however, only work towards dealing with it in a healthy manner.

Here are 10 effective ways of emotionally dealing with ghosting and healing yourself:
  1. Accept the reality and give yourself time to get over it

Accepting the reality, acknowledging your emotions, and allowing yourself to process the feelings you’re going through can prove to be helpful. Let yourself feel the grief because you have all the right to be sad when you’ve been ghosted. It’s important to acknowledge that it hurts because only then can you overcome this.

  1. Get rid of everything related to the person

You should definitely separate yourself from the memories of that person for the sake of your emotional health. It might be extremely hard to do but you should ideally clear out the gifts exchanged, delete their contact and unfollow them on social media. Give yourself some space to heal.

  1. Don’t react in a hurry

We are living in a modern world and communication is very fast-paced. But, you should avoid sending any emotional messages that might not even be acknowledged. What’s more, avoid updating your social media profile with breakup quotes and angry status updates. Do not react in a hurry when it comes to your emotions.

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It is not the end. Image courtesy: Shutterstock
  1. Don’t blame yourself

If you’ve decided that you want to move on, then focus on your personal growth. Never blame yourself for anything. You might think that your effort was not up to the mark and that caused ghosting. You need to be gentle, kind, and sympathetic towards yourself.

  1. Deal with the rejection

Once you are done feeling frustrated and sad, ask yourself if you’re truly feeling heartbroken because you’ve been rejected. Understand your feelings and deal with them. Rejection can be hard to process but again, remember to not blame yourself and only work towards moving on.

  1. Hang out with friends and family

When you’re in a problem, your family and friends are your saviours! Talk with someone who can understand you, advise you, and support you. Ghosting can leave you in a bad mental place. Therefore, start hanging out with dear ones to reduce stress and enhance feelings of positivity.

  1. Focus on your health

Make sure your emotional imbalance is not disturbing your sleep. In addition, start exercising because physical activity won’t just boost your physical health but also uplift your mood. Ensure that you’re eating healthy. Taking care of yourself will help you heal emotionally.

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Indulge in self-care to deal with your emotions. Image courtesy: Shutterstock
  1. Don’t stop believing in love

Feeling ghosted can significantly change your idea of love but don’t avoid giving a chance to someone you’re attracted to, just because of one bad past experience. Go on dates, meet with new people, and don’t be afraid of putting yourself out there.

  1. Be grateful it’s over

Instead of harbouring emotions of anger, sadness and hatred, be grateful that you dodged a toxic situation. Look at the silver lining, even if you’re feeling heartbroken.

  1. Opt for professional advice if needed

Emotions of feeling ghosted are heavy to hold. Therefore, if you’ve been feeling that you simply can’t overcome them, then look at professional help.

Final thought

Ghosting happens, but it’s not the end of the world. Don’t let those feelings of hurt dictate your life. Concentrate on your own growth and healing.

Aayushi Gupta Aayushi Gupta

Candid, outspoken, but prudent--Aayushi is exploring her place in media world.