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How many times have you felt that you aren’t as competent as others consider you to be? If you feel it every now and then, you could be suffering from impostor syndrome. This doesn’t have anything to do with your intelligence, but your obsession with perfectionism and the social context.
Imposter syndrome can make you reel under constant pressure, because every time you’re in a social situation, it makes you feel you do not belong there–it’s just sheer luck that has brought you there. Remember it can affect you, irrespective of your social status, work profile, skill level or other similar factors.
Impostor syndrome was first used in the 1970s by psychologists Suzanna Imes and Pauline Rose Clance, and it was thought to apply to high-achieving women. That’s not the case!
Imposter syndrome can make some people feel motivated, but it almost always makes them feel anxious. You might end up “over-working”, just so that you feel assured that no one will find out that you’re a fraud. You believe that you did well because you stayed up all night, or you were liked at a party, only because you remembered all the little details about the guests.
Unfortunately, when someone suffers from impostor syndrome, they refuse to believe that it is their competency that is responsible for their growth. Your core beliefs are so strong that even if there is evidence to prove otherwise, you still do not believe it.
Eventually, this cycle makes you feel anxious, and can also lead to depression.
If you find yourself doing this time and again, then you must reach out to a mental health professional to tackle the problem.
There are certain factors that could have triggered impostor syndrome. For instance, if you’ve been brought up in a house, where your parents have flipped back and forth between praise and criticism, then it’s likely that you grow up with a feeling that you aren’t really worth it.
It can also happen when you are starting something new in life, be it going to a new college or starting a new job, and you just don’t belong there!
Another thing to keep in mind is that imposter syndrome and social anxiety might overlap. Here, people feel that they do not belong in social situations. While having a conversation with someone at a party or social gathering, you might feel that you aren’t good enough, and it’s only a matter of moments that the other person is going to find out about your social incompetence.
First of all, it’s important to understand that you can’t always chase perfectionism. There is no perfect script to ace conversations to avoid saying wrong things. While at work, you might find it hard to ask for help, and with so much on your plate, you might end up procrastinating, just because of your own high standards.
The only way to get past this is by becoming more comfortable with your thoughts and feelings. Follow these techniques:
So ladies, do not stop yourself from pursuing your goals. Don’t hold yourself back in any way!