How to choose the best therapist for you–according to therapists themselves

If you have been thinking of seeking psychotherapy but don’t know where to begin, this expert-backed guide can help you make strides in the right direction and find a therapist.
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The right therapist can make the process of dealing with a narcissistic partner easier. Image courtesy: Shutterstock
Sonakshi Kohli Updated: 2 Jan 2020, 15:07 pm IST
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From stress to anxiety to depression—there are countless mental health problems that plague us all at some point or the other.

While some of us decide to suffer in silence, the braver ones decide to counter their problems with the help of professionals. However, it’s super-important to choose the right counsellor–after all psychotherapy can make or break you. 

“When you choose a therapist, you are choosing someone with whom you are comfortable being vulnerable. It’s someone you can trust. And if you make the right decision while choosing, the outcome of your therapy can drastically improve your mental health,” points out Dr Rizwana Nulwala, psychotherapist, Krizalyz Counselling and Mental Health Services in Mumbai.

Also, read: Yikes! 1 in 7 Indians suffer from mental disorders, according to The Lancet

Wondering how you can make the right decision and seek someone who is right for you? Well, we got therapists from across the country to suggest how you can choose a therapist for yourself:

1. Check the therapist’s background before disclosing yours
It is important to understand the therapist’s area of expertise apart from making a note of his practicing license and qualifications. In fact, it is also important to ensure that keeping your matters confidential is a part of his/her practicing policy according to Dr Manish Jain, consultant at the psychiatry department, BLK Super Speciality Hospital, New Delhi.

2. S/he should make you comfortable
For you to be vulnerable and completely honest about your past experiences and current emotions, it is imperative that you’re comfortable with your therapist. “It is crucial that you feel like you can talk to and trust your therapist,” says Kamna Chhibber, clinical psychologist, head, mental health department and behavioral sciences, Fortis Healthcare.

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Your therapist should make you comfortable. Image courtesy: Shutterstock

3. S/he should have great listening skills
It is obvious that in order to treat you, your therapist must get to know you properly, which is why s/he’s got to be a patient listener and a keen observer. “Coming out of therapy, feeling you were not heard or you were misheard or misinterpreted is unhelpful and can negate the potential beneficial effects of therapy,” cautions Chhibber.

4. S/he should be open to your feedback
Therapists too have to attune themselves to you and your style of functioning. So, there can be situations where they need more time to figure out the best way to work with you. “Their receptivity to your feedback can be an important factor that can help them figure this out,” Chhibber adds.

Also, read: An expert guide to help you deal with panic attacks in public places

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In the end, remember to…
Discuss your case in person or over the phone before commiting to a therapist. Ask them about their plan of action for you, and then make an informed choice.

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