Been avoiding your friends? You could have poor mental health, reveals a senior psychiatrist

If you struggle with meeting friends or sharing your innermost thoughts with them then you must pay attention to your mental health.
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Your friendships have a lot to say about your mental health . Image courtesy: Shutterstock
Dr Sameer Kalani Updated: 30 Oct 2023, 16:08 pm IST
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Friendship is a pivotal component in ensuring our mental well-being. Our friends can keep us grounded and can help us build a new perspective. All in all, friends build a safety net and help us deal with several issues that life tosses at us.

For people who have psychological disorders, their minds can’t think, feel, or act straight. For a few, this implies encountering outrageous and startling changes in state of mind–like feeling more miserable or stressed than usual. For others, it implies not thinking clearly, not having the option to speak with somebody openly, or explain the suicidal thoughts they experience. 

Emotional wellness issues are characterised by excessive worry either due to circumstances, or sequence of occasions. Just like cancer, diabetes and heart diseases, mental illness is more than just about physical health, it also encompasses psychological and mental. 

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Psychological illness might be brought on by a response to surrounding anxieties, hereditary elements, biochemical imbalance, or a blend of all. With appropriate consideration and treatment, one can figure out how to adapt or recoup from a psychological illness.

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Depression can happen to anyone. Image courtesy: Shutterstock
How does mental ill health affect friendships?

Having a mental illness is pretty difficult, however the disgrace related with the condition can include an additional layer of worry for the ones suffering. They may feel disgrace, humiliation, or generally feel shame for their condition. They may attempt to shroud their side effects, or neglect to look for the assistance they need. And the more they delay it, the more befuddled or disappointed their friends and family may feel for their failure to help. An individual with depression or anxiety may even find it difficult to complete household chores, let alone have energy to fight their inner battles. This leads to dissatisfaction, dismissal, and detachment in relationships.

Codependency is an unhealthy situation that shows how one partner empowers the other’s poor emotional wellness, enslavement, and coping mechanisms. The one helping the other with psychological instability may begin to derive their self-esteem based on how much they are “required” or the amount they can “deal with” their loved one. In severe cases, codependency can lead to injurious practices, such as verbal abusing and other undesirable elements. Hence, it is important to realize how to recognize the need to support and uphold your companion, rather than existing in a mutually dependent relationship.

What makes relationships important in the recovery phase?

Not every person can bear the cost of a counsellor, and keeping that in mind, that shouldn’t be the only way to deal with mental illness. Companions can assist their mentally ill friends with handling things, taking their friendship to another level with trust and closeness.

Individuals measure grief and trauma in various ways. A few people write in journals, others use their craftsmanship, some talk their way out while some lift in the gym. While all of it may help to some degree, talking has additionally been incredibly valuable for patients in the past.

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Find yourself some trustworthy friends to keep yourself mentally healthy. Image courtesy: Shutterstock

What separates a discussion from different techniques is that it’s a two-way road, so an old friend can criticise or even just validate the situation. Or on the other hand, if the one dealing with mental illness was unable to offer a voice to their emotions while describing their feelings, their companion can help them do exactly that.

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However, people who suffer from mental illness often like to keep their friends and family away. They never put more on their companions than they can deal with. By sharing their own thoughts and experiences, they can help their suffering friends become open to the idea of sharing without being judged.

Individuals should be encouraged to look for help, if they or their loved ones are battling with psychological wellness problems. Psychological illness isn’t a character defect nor an ethical issue. Indeed, individuals should be considered liable for their activities and practices—yet they additionally deserve understanding and support so they can figure out how to deal with their emotions, cope with past trauma, and honour their social ties.

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Dr Sameer Kalani is a senior consultant psychiatrist at Sukoon Hospital, clinically governed by Fortis Healthcare. ...Read More

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