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Having a fight with anyone can make you angry and frustrated. Though everyone has a right to have an opinion, disagreements make the situation worse. Fights are a part and parcel of every relationship. Every human being has emotions, including anger. If after an insult-filled verbal exchange, you’re left sobbing, shivering, hurt, cranky or angry, we’ve got some great tips to calm down in no time and feel better. All set to find out?
Conflicts can create intense emotional reactions, especially when they alter the dynamics of the partnership. Therefore, it is normal to feel angry and have negative feelings inside after an argument. Don’t blame yourself for having those feelings. It is possible that your partner is also going through a similar situation. One thing is crystal clear is that regardless of whether these feelings are towards the person you are arguing with or the situation, you must cool down. Otherwise, it might harm your emotional and mental well-being.
Health Shots got in touch with Dr Kedar Tilwe, Consultant Psychiatrist, Fortis Hospital Mulund and Hiranandani Hospital, Vashi – A Fortis Network Hospital, to suggest some best ways to calm down after an argument or fight.
Utilizing your preferred stress management technique is beneficial. You can try listening to music you love or to a playlist of songs that make you smile, spend time on your hobby or you can simply go for a walk away from the situation. In this manner, you may undoubtedly relax down and give yourself some time to reflect.
No, we’re not recommending you to exercise right after your fight. However, a regular morning workout, brisk walking, or yoga can help you remain composed in any circumstance. Dr Tilwe says, “A mild form of physical exertion will help reduce most of the frustration, anger, resentment and tension that can affect us post an argument.” So go for a short walk, a slow jog or even take your pet out for a stroll and watch the angst melt away.
Use any form of relaxation that you are comfortable with to calm yourself down post an argument. Meditation, yoga and progressive muscular relaxation can help. Mindfulness techniques like mindful breathing, mindful walking and mindful eating are also fun ways of calming yourself down. These things aim to change your focus so that you overcome your anger.
Sometimes, not responding to provocation and not trying to win the argument then and there may be crucial to helping you save the relationship. So consciously avoid the urge and need to have a face-off instantaneously. In fact, if it’s your fault accept it and move on.
Most of the time we don’t go looking for an argument, but they will come up from time to time, so develop a self-calming routine and practice it regularly. It can include positive cognitive affirmations to yourself, distraction methods you can use or even stress-buster toys that may come in handy. You can also quietly sit and shake your body.
Do not hesitate to discuss this with a mental health professional or utilize the stress helplines that are available if you are unable to control your frustration or anger!