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Living life to the fullest means playing an active role in your own development. It means steering the wheel of our own lives and taking advantage of our unique and powerful potential as people.
Let me ask you a question: have you ever felt insecure? I personally have so much success and potential on my side, yet there are days when my insecurities show up right in my face.
Do you get nervous when someone even mentions the word ‘insecure’ to describe you? You are not alone and you are about to learn how you can take your insecurities and use the basics of psychology to make them work for you rather than against you.
Most people associate the word insecure with negative connotations and emotions. The main reason why people do this is because deep down we all are a little bit insecure—in fact there is not a single person on the planet that is perfectly secure. Most people think that insecurities hold no value when ironically they hold more value than we can even imagine.
Accept that asking for approval from others for exactly what it is. We all seek approval and it is natural to be very aware about how others respond to us. Seek inner validation from yourself to reveal the best version of who you are. It starts with self-knowledge and knowing who you really are as a divine creation having a human experience.
Ever considered becoming friends with your ego? Everyone has an ego, and the ego is not your enemy. When we know who we are, we can consequently have a loving relationship with all parts of ourselves including the ego. Radical self-acceptance is the path to overcoming the feeling of insecurity.
Ask yourself: Can I see the insecurity with compassion and kindness? When feeling troubled with insecurities, treat yourself as you would treat your best friend going through this same quandary. Do more of the things that make you feel good about yourself. Celebrate the sexiness, the dark side, the loud side, and the ambitious sexy person that you are. Praising yourself for the good but also acknowledging and living in awareness for the not-so-good is key to inner confidence.
Self-love is not selfish—it’s a prerequisite to happiness. Loving ourselves for who we are, in our imperfectly perfect state is key. Know what makes you feel loved and practice that everyday. One easy tip is to start with daily affirmations. Look at yourself in the mirror and affirm the things you really love about yourself. It doesn’t matter how fat I am or what my current relationship status is. I personally like to repeat “always sexy, always brilliant.”
It is important to recognise that the opinion of others can have both a positive and a negative effect on us. It connects us to people, and when validation is positive it can help us feel good about ourselves. But a negative remark can also leave us feeling insecure, isolated, and alone. Know the kind of energy you want in your life and create your own community of like-minded individuals.
Your insecurity is also a part of you—yet it is a story that is rarely told. Share your story and give voice to experiences that are all too common so that you no longer need to suffer in silence and feel the shame and stigma associated with being vulnerable. Your vulnerability is your greatest strength as it attracts soul connections.
Emotions are never right or wrong, they simply exist. We always need some sort of emotion to function. Treat each moment and each thought for its brilliance and be mindful and thankful for each and every emotion. Self-kindness helps in overcoming insecurities and it all starts with self-knowledge and then radical self-acceptance. The more gratitude we give, the happier we feel.
Managing insecurities helps the human brain make better decisions. Remember, our journey is not about being better than others. It is about saying goodbye to the conditioning of the world, which includes cultural, family, and even friend conditioning. This world has tried to keep us from being our most sexy and brilliant versions for far too long.
You are more than enough just as you are!