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There’s an ongoing perception that virtual heartbreaks are not as brutal as what we would experience in the real world. Internet dating is fun and online dating has really gathered momentum amidst the ongoing global pandemic.
Finding love is an important decision. It’s not only about putting yourself out there which requires a lot of courage, but also about meeting new people with whom you might be able to share long-term relationships.
In such a situation, just because the connection was made online doesn’t mean virtual heartbreak is less severe than offline heartbreak. Despite how we might have come to know the person, the emotional intimacy existed and the bottom line is that a breakup is difficult to deal with.
Romantic relationships can be fun and exhilarating because it feels amazing to love and be loved in return. But, what happens when we realize that the person we’re dating might not be the one? How do we find the inspiration to love again?
Here are my top 3 tips on how to overcome virtual heartbreak because we all need a bit of sexy brilliant comfort.
Cry, scream or punch a pillow, your pain is justified! Dealing with heartbreak is not easy and dealing with the healing process alone is hard enough. It can feel like you’re stuck in a rut. You might end up blaming yourself for what happened and wonder why you got into that relationship in the first place. It might even seem tempting to pin-point your own flaws to compensate for the pain. We’ve all been there including me.
Heartbreak can affect every aspect of our lives and depression can set in. That is why it is important to step back from the situation and take a breather! Allow yourself to be in a position of vulnerability where nobody can judge you for the pain that you’re allowed to feel. Watch a movie, get professional help, meditate and masturbate. Basically, do whatever is necessary and healthy for yourself to release the hurt you feel.
To know yourself better during the most painful period in your life is to go back to the roots of ‘self-love’. Maybe you enjoyed travelling or you were on the verge of taking up a new hobby before the virtual romance started? There is strength to be found in singleness and it requires you to discover your own innate power by indulging in self-love.
Heartbreak may seem like the end of the world but when you start to build on your own growth, your support structure such as friends and family may be the only valuable love you need to feel to be yourself again. Take time to mourn while getting to know this new you!
I have overcome addictions and heartbreaks on my journey and I struggled with self-acceptance. The journey of self-love is a bumpy road but I promise, each bump is worth the breakthrough you are about to experience. When you start to find yourself, nothing else matters because you’ve reached a level of self-awareness that is liberating and empowering.
It’s no longer about who hurt you or who couldn’t love you the way you might have wanted. Instead, you are able to give and receive love above and beyond romantic relationships. Perhaps the heartbreak proved that you are the sexy brilliant self you always have been.
Your inner divine being is your true state of perfection. Embrace the power of knowing yourself and express the vulnerabilities that come with this knowledge during a heartbreak that can be a painful experience. You are a gift to yourself and those who are graced with the opportunity to know you. Treat yourself as you would treat your best friend going through the same hurt, with self-compassion and kindness!