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It’s an age-old adage that distance makes the heart grow fonder, but it really can be true when it comes to your relationships! Ever sat and wondered about how much time should your partner and you spend together? Well, it may be good to do things together, but don’t underestimate the importance of spending some time apart from each other too!
This vital relationship also has the approval of popular author, mythologist, and storyteller Seema Anand, who delved into it in her recent Instagram video.
Here’s what she wrote, “Top tip for a successful relationship: You DON’T have to do everything together! A common misconception is that you should be really involved in each other’s daily lives, but actually, if you find yourself attached at the hip, where’s the fun? Take time away to live your own lives and then come back together to share what you’ve done. Miss each other, be okay with distance! You’ll find it actually adds a bit more spark to your relationship than you thought.”
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When you spend too much with someone, they literally become your world and due to that you no longer pay that much attention to what is going on outside. According to Seema Anand, for a successful relationship, you really need to spend a healthy amount of time away from each other. Do lots of things together, of course, but also do things separately.
Yes, you should have a life of your own! In fact, this can assist you in continuing to grow in your relationship. Couples in long-distance relationships report higher levels of intimacy and idealize their partner more, according to a study published in the Journal of Communication. This occurs because while you’re separated from your other half, you wonder what they’re up to, which reminds you of the perks they bring into your life. When you’re with them, it’s easy to overlook.
Seema Anand adds you have to give yourself enough time to miss each other.
So, you could go out with your friends, your colleagues, or even sometimes on your own if you have to. And the key thing is to indulge fun and interesting stuff so that when you come back together again, you have lots of exciting stories to share with each other. According to her, it is what can add spice and the variety to your relationship.
“Clinging together all the time is not romantic, it’s just suffocating. Add value to each other’s lives, not boredom!”