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Friends with benefits – well, it was a popular flick of its time, and Mila Kunis and Justin Timeberlake instantly became our biggest crushes. The duo, as a couple or should we say “friends”, gave us major couple goals. And we are sure you must have also tried your hands at something like that!
But do you feel a situation like this can really work in reality? Frankly, yes it can. The millennials and the GenZs of the world are very ambivalent about the ‘friends with benefits’ situation. And its success is totally dependent on how emotionally, mentally, and sexually invested you are in it.
Before we give you a lowdown on being ‘friend with benefits’, let’s read what renowned psychiatrist, Dr Rahul Khemani has to say.
“At its core, friends with benefits is an integration of friendship and physical intimacy, typically without the commitments of an exclusive romantic relationship. Contrary to the notions of popular media, most of these do not transition into fulfilling, long-term, meaningful relationships,” he explains.
Well, there can be multiple reasons like:
Now, this totally depends on both the partners. You see ‘friends with benefits’ is a “no questions asked” situation, unlike a regular relationship. There are very well-defined boundaries. If you play by the rules, then you can totally enjoy being in one, but if you step over, then it can be an emotional turmoil for you. Just, like what happened in the movie with Mila Kunis’s character Jamie.
“If the bond in friendship with benefits is good, it is likely that one or both participants will want to upgrade it to a profound, committed romance.
When only one partner falls in love with the other, a major difficulty arises. In such a case, this person might cross the boundaries of friendship with benefits, and begin to behave like a lover. The lack of reciprocity can then be painful and destructive,” explains Dr Khemani.
Here are some rules to avoid awkward moments when being friends with benefits:
“Past research has shown that communication is the key to maintaining a healthy FWB relationship. The reality is quite different; as we are aware substantive communication is rare. FWBRs tend to go smoother when both participants are on the same page, and everybody realizes this, but not enough people have these conversations, since they can be a bit fraught and awkward,” concludes Dr Khemani.
So now that the ball is in your court, it’s up to you to decide if you want to be ‘friends with benefits’ or not.