Is he not the one for you? Know the signs

Wondering if you are in a relationship with someone who is not the right match? Here are signs that indicate he is not the one for you.
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Natalia Ningthoujam Published: 31 Jan 2024, 17:00 pm IST
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Not every romantic relationship lasts forever. Some experiences are lessons in what you want or don’t want in a life partner. Often, uncertainty in a relationship can create anxiety. People may worry about compatibility, commitment, and the long-term success of the partnership. At other times, people just end up being in a wrong relationship. That’s because it is not always easy to find the right match. For the sake of your mental health, it may be best to move away from people who are not right for you. But what are the signs he is not the one for you?

How does being in a wrong relationship affect mental health?

Being in a relationship with someone who is not the right match can have profound effects on mental health. It may lead to the following side effects, says mental health and behavioural science expert Dr Chandrima Misra Mukherjee.

1. Anxiety and depression

If you are with the wrong guy, there may be constant stress, unresolved conflicts, and unmet emotional needs. These can contribute to anxiety and depression.

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2. Low self-esteem

A toxic relationship can erode self-esteem. It can leave individuals feeling unimportant or unworthy, leading to low self-esteem.

3. Isolation

A wrong relationship may lead to isolation. That may happen, as individuals may withdraw from friends and family due to shame or embarrassment.

4. Physical health issues

Chronic stress from an unhealthy relationship can contribute to physical health problems. There may be insomnia, headaches, and digestive issues, says the expert.

5. Emotional exhaustion

If you are in a relationship with the wrong person, you will be constantly navigating conflicts and trying to make an incompatible relationship work. This can lead to emotional exhaustion.

6. Loss of identity

Being in an unhealthy relationship will not allow personal growth. This can lead to a loss of individual identity.

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7. Escalating conflicts

Unresolved issues can lead to escalating conflicts. This can create a hostile environment that can further damage your mental well-being.

What are the signs he is not the one?

Most people want to be in a relationship that lasts forever. But if he is not the one, you must move on. Here are some signs to know:

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1. Lack of communication

Communication is key in every healthy relationship. If there is a consistent breakdown in communication, it may signify a lack of emotional connection or effort in the relationship.

2. Disinterest in future plans

A partner who is not interested in discussing or planning a shared future could indicate a lack of commitment. If commitment is an issue for your partner then clearly he is not the one for you.

3. Emotional unavailability

Being emotionally distant or unavailable can be a problem. It may hinder the development of a deep and meaningful connection.

4. Unwillingness to compromise

Healthy relationships involve compromise. If your partner is consistently unwilling to compromise, it may signal an imbalance.

5. Lack of respect

Romantic or not, respect is fundamental in every relationship. If there is a pattern of disrespect or disregard for boundaries, it’s a significant red flag.

6. Dishonesty

Trust is the foundation of any relationship. Repeated dishonesty erodes this foundation, making a lasting connection difficult.

7. Different values

Sometimes there are fundamental differences in values, such as beliefs, priorities, or life goals. They can lead to long-term compatibility issues, says the expert.

8. Feeling unfulfilled

Is your relationship consistently leaving you feeling unfulfilled or unhappy? It may not be the right match then.

9. Inability to apologise or forgive

A healthy relationship involves admitting mistakes, apologising, and forgiving. Inability to do so can create toxicity, says the expert.

10. Lack of support

Some partners do not offer support during challenging times. It may signal a lack of emotional investment.

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If he is not the one for you then he will not support you and will have control issues. Image courtesy: Adobe Stock

11. Control issues

If a partner exhibits controlling behaviour, it can be detrimental to individual growth. This will in turn affect your relationship.

12. Lack of effort

Relationships require effort from both parties. A consistent lack of effort may indicate disinterest.

13. Physical or emotional abuse

Be it physical or emotional, any form of abuse clearly indicates that the relationship is unhealthy. It must be addressed immediately even if you love your partner.

It is essential for you to be aware of the signs of a wrong relationship and prioritise your mental health. If you are with someone who is not right for you, and it is causing more harm than good, make healthier choices for yourself. Take help from friends, family or mental health professionals to navigate the challenges of ending your relationship with the wrong guy and rebuilding mental well-being.

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About the Author

Natalia Ningthoujam has written on various subjects - from music to films and fashion to lifestyle - as a journalist in her career that started in 2010. After getting stories from the crime scene, police headquarters, and conducting interviews with celebrities, she is now writing on health and wellness which has become her focus area. ...Read More

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