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There’s no question that teenagers these days experience a lot more anger. Whether in school, at home, or in the movies they watch—anger is depicted more often, and we feel the effects. In this case, the parents have a powerful impact on how teenagers deal with anger. They need to take an active role in helping them find positive ways of anger management. The key is to make sure they live a healthy life and not face the stress that might trigger anger issues in them.
Anger is normal, but your child doesn’t need to be in the same mood all the time. Parents need to try and find out how much it interferes with their lives. Is this something that happens often or is it something that your teenager should work on?
Our first reaction to anger is often to avoid it. We tend to avoid it, deny it, and pretend that we feel something different from reality. However, this does not mean that you have to suppress your feelings or try to avoid them. On the contrary, the more you ignore your feelings, the stronger they become and the more difficult it becomes for you to deal with in the future. Accept your child’s emotions without judgment.
The term ‘emotional intelligence’ refers to the ability to understand your emotions and the ability to control them. The moment we master our emotions, and the sooner we learn, the game changes. Only when we as parents know their feelings, sit with them, and acknowledge them, can they learn to manage their emotions.
There are many different ways to release anger. Some of these ways include exercising, changing the way you think, talking with a friend or a family member, and listening to music. The key is not to suppress your anger but manage your emotions better. Suppression will make our teenagers feel even more frustrated, which means more anger. By releasing your frustration through a healthy activity you’ll be able to relax, feel better and prevent any situation from escalating.
There are many different kinds of exercise: running, swimming, cycling, basketball, etc. Exercise and sports can help our teens as it’s a way to cope and is a great opportunity to release their feelings and tensions. Sports can also act as a stimulus for healthy physical activity, exercise, fun, making friends, getting in shape, and building sportsmanship in them.
Moreover, such activities are good for teenagers because it helps them divulge aggression and frustration into a sport. At your home, try to motivate your kid to practice martial arts three times a week. This may help your teenager to control their anger and expression. Moreover, martial arts is a good way to transmute their energy.
It is well known that meditation can be a good way to express your emotions and cope with stress and the results are gratifying. We also know that meditation has positive effects on the body and mind. It helps them relax after a hard day at school, changes their perspective of life and the world, and inculcates patience when dealing with problems. Encourage your teenager to sit in stillness and silence to cope with their emotions better.
Music is a great way to relieve stress, blow off some steam and control anger issues. Encourage your teenager to play and listen to their favorite choice of calm music as it can help manage the mood for the better.
Spirituality is a way of expressing oneself, finding its roots by believing in the interaction between humans and nature. Religious activities, rituals of a definite faith provide teenagers with the possibility of communicating with another person or personal deity. Spiritual and religious practice helps teenagers connect to their light within, which helps them be more mindful of their own emotional health and well-being.
If you feel that the anger of your teenager is interfering with their everyday activities and the above tools fail to cope with their problem, it’s important to consult a professional. They can help them see the bigger picture and learn how to deal with it.
We as parents, can help our teenagers cope with anger by actively supporting them, being mindful of what triggers them, and finding healthy ways to cope with their anger issues.