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Have you ever said ‘yes’ under pressure, and regretted it soon after? Well, it’s not the easiest thing to say no. We understand that sometimes there’s really no way out to get yourself out of the situation, yet saying ‘no’ is the best solution to keep your mental and emotional well-being in check.
If you willingly say yes, there is no problem at all. But if someone is forcefully saying yes, then s/he might struggle with its repercussions later. According to Shaina Vasundhara Bhatia, psychotherapist and counseling psychologist, “Not being able to say NO can be hard, and may even push you into a space where you’re exhausted in every possible way.”
She adds, “It’s difficult to be in this position, because you always end up prioritising other’s needs and wants above yours, which in the long run isn’t healthy for you. It is arduous emotionally, mentally and physically.”
Namrata Jain, psychologist & relationship counsellor, founder – Out Aloud, shares a few reasons why people struggle to say no:
“There are certain people who find it hard to say no, just to please others without knowing that this will also impact their mental well-being”, says Ms Jain.
According to Ms Vasundhara, they must try and understand why they struggle to say ‘no’. When they realise the reason, it is quite empowering for them.
“There is something within you that shifts. The fact that you’re asking yourself this -means that there is a part of you, which realises that your needs aren’t met and that is a good place to start”, she explains.
You should understand that saying yes all the time can get too overwhelming for you at times. In fact, other people also start taking you for granted, and stop valuing you for what you really are.
“At times, you have to think what’s in there for you, if you say yes? Analyse whether saying yes will have negative implications on you or not? Evaluate why it is important to say yes in the first place? Then only commit to something. Trust me, saying no won’t make you a bad person at all. You owe this to yourself”, says Ms Vasundhra.
She has a word of advice, “If you find it hard to resolve this issue, then I would suggest you visit a therapist and find a solution for yourself.”
So you see how saying yes all the time can be nerve-wrecking. That’s why at times, it is important to say NO for the sake of your mental well-being.