Going through a divorce? Here’s what to keep in mind

Published on: 24 June 2022, 23:34 pm IST
Separating paths from a loved one is not an easy decision. What's even more difficult are the problems after a divorce.
Devina Kaur
These tips will help you keep your sanity even after a hurtful separation. Image Courtesy: Shutterstock
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Divorce is often a life-altering phase. There must’ve been a lot of reasons that led you to choose the path of separation from your partner. Not only will you be separating from your life partner but also leaving behind your lifestyle and dealing with new changes in your other relationships. The problems after a divorce can leave your emotional health in shambles. You might be faced with several emotional outbursts and self-doubts.

Here are a few tips to ease out the problems after a divorce and maintain composure:

1. Know and educate yourself

With all the tedious and emotionally challenging legal proceedings, divorce brings a drastic change in our lives. It’s crucial to know and understand the laws that will be guiding your life in future. Be attentive and know that if both the parties agree, you can opt for divorce mediation as it is a peaceful way to proceed with the divorce. Do not shy away from asking questions and researching on your part as well. Seek the help of a professional as well as others who have gone through the same.

Problems after a divorce can really take a toll on your mental health. Image courtesy: Shutterstock

2. Accept your feelings

We all have a coping mechanism and grief hits us all very differently. The problems after a divorce include instances of helplessness and emotional fatigue in you and it’s part of the healing process. During the legal proceedings and even after the divorce is done, learn to accept your feelings. Divorce will also bring about a change in your family; if your children are concerned, explain to them patiently about the situation. Refrain from bad-mouthing your spouse and know that you can rely on trusted professionals and support groups for help. Acceptance of every situation helps us gain inner peace.

3. Unlearn old rules

Divorce is one of the hardest events in life. It is also hard on your family and you might have to face some resistance from your family. The old teachings from your family may be difficult to fight against but have faith in yourself and your decision. Initially, you might want to give up and feel vulnerable. Trust your instincts and believe in yourself that you’re making the right decision for yourself and your family.

Practice self-love, always! Image courtesy: Shutterstock

4. Release negativity

Separation and divorce leave you with negativity and toxic feelings towards your partner. This negativity may lead to the unhappiness of your family and you. Problems after a divorce will require adjusting to a new life and it will be challenging. You’ll be faced with emotions that you may not be ready to deal with. Give yourself some time and avoid the rush to make things right at the moment. It will take time but once you practice mindfulness you can open yourself to new possibilities in life.

Going through a divorce can be intimidating and overwhelming. You may feel that you’re making wrong choices and feel like giving up. You ought to know that you’re not in the wrong. Divorce is neither right nor wrong, rather you always have to be unapologetic and choose what’s best for you. Muster up all your courage so your sexy brilliant self can shine in this world and you feel pride in yourself and your lifestyle choices.

 

Devina Kaur

Devina Kaur is an inspirational speaker, radio host, and producer. She is also the author of the self-help book called "Too Fat Too Loud Too Ambitious".

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