6 Indian women with younger partners share why ‘age gap’ is NO bar for love!

Updated on: 14 December 2021, 16:06 pm IST

Actors Vicky Kaushal and Katrina Kaif's wedding has brought the 'age gap' discussion back. We asked six women about their bond with a younger partner.

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Actress Katrina Kaif recently married Vicky Kaushal, who is five years younger than him. Image courtesy: Shutterstock

Where there’s love and respect, age rarely matters! As Bollywood stars Katrina Kaif, 38, and Vicky Kaushal, 33, tied the knot in a widely talked about, yet hush-hush gala wedding recently, guess what became one of the talks of the town? The answer lies in the emphasis of their age! Yes, it was their 5-year age gap.

Of course, we would like to believe that times have changed and marriages or relationships have moved beyond the stereotype of an older man-younger woman, successful man and not-as-successful woman. But reality bites!

Every time there is a female celebrity who marries a younger man, there is a little brouhaha! Think Priyanka Chopra-Nick Jonas, Aishwarya Rai Bachchan-Abhishek Bachchan, Urmila Matondkar-Mohsin Akhtar, Soha Ali Khan-Kunal Kemmu, Neha Dhupia-Angad Bedi or Amrita Singh-Saif Ali Khan.

However, what may be seen as a taboo by some, is also seen as “breaking sexist norms” and “redefining gender stereotypes” of sorts by some like actress Kangana Ranaut. The controversy ‘queen’, via an indirect Instagram comment, lauded the Indian film industry’s “leading ladies” – rich and successful women – for taking a route that would have meant a “crisis” for ladies once upon a time.

But for those who have kept love above all else, the age stereotype is just that – a stereotype, and has had no or little bearing on their relationship.

HealthShots reached out to 6 women with younger partners to understand what age gap does to their bond. Let’s learn from them!

1. Mou Trivedy

Filmmaker
Age: 36
Age gap with partner: 6 years

Our relationship, considering the age gap, did meet its disagreements in the beginning from people around us. But it never even crossed our minds. It has been 4 years together and like any other relationship, we bring two personalities on the table and that has worked great for us. There’s constant energy, exchange of ideas and happiness to experience new things together, and learn things from our respective generations.

It’s like any other relationship between two people on this planet.. the age gap makes it no different.

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There’s a 10-year age difference between Priyanka Chopra and Nick Jonas. Image courtesy: Shutterstock

2. Tisha Saraf

Make-up expert
Age: 31
Age gap with partner: 1.5 years

For us, the age gap was never a problem. I feel that if your mental level matches and you understand each other well, it shouldn’t be a problem. And maybe it also depends on how responsible a guy is and whether he is settled or not. These should be the things that a person should consider instead of just focusing on the age gap. On a lighter note, whenever we fight, I can always laugh and tell him, “Main aapse badi hun na… zyaada duniya dekhi hai maine!”

3. Prof(Dr) Shikha Gupta

Teacher
Age: 47
Age gap with partner: 1 year

For us, age doesn’t really matter in our relationship. Yes, it was an issue for society initially, but we sailed through it. I feel that mutual respect is what matters and respect doesn’t depend on our age!

4. Meenakshi Sharma

Homemaker
Age: 37
Age gap with partner: 8 years

Well, I won’t lie that even I was apprehensive when my then-boyfriend and now husband asked me to marry him. Our age gap is almost 8 years, which was huge in the eyes of our parents.

But I remember my grandmother telling me, ‘Beta, jinki biwi unse badi hoti hain na, woh bahut lucky hote hai. Shadi chalaoge toh chalegi… baaki umar se kuch nahi hota’. It has been 3 years now we are married, and I’ve never been so happy.

From video games to serious discussions, fights to watching rom-coms – we do everything. And I really don’t see what the entire fuss is all about.

Also Read: These 7 relationship tips from a psychologist will help all couples out there find bliss

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As long as the wavelength matches, age is not an issue! Image courtesy: Shutterstock

5. Asma Khanna

Architect
Age: 33
Age gap with partner: 4 years

To be honest, the age gap between me and my husband is not that much. He is just 4 years younger to me, but at times I really think that I’m dealing with a kid. Having said that, we have our fun times! But sometimes I really miss out on those mature conversations. Frankly, I’m not sure whether it’s a matter of age or two people just clicking because I think experience also matters to sustain a relationship. But we are working on it. Hope we will pass the litmus test with flying colors… hahahaha!

6. Liza Powell

Investment Adviser
Age: 35
Age gap with partner: 1.5 years

Our age difference has never bothered us or been a hindrance in any way. We have similar values, beliefs and even the same sense of humor which makes it easier for us to understand each other. I feel that as long as there is mutual respect, love and space in a relationship, it doesn’t matter who is older or younger.

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Content Head for Healthshots.

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