Want to win over your difficult mother-in-law? Put these 5 bonding tips to use

These tips will help you improve and strengthen your relationship with mother in law by maintaining good communication.
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With these tips, you'll have a positive relationship with your mother in law. Image courtesy: Shutterstock
Devina Kaur Published: 27 Jul 2022, 12:18 pm IST
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Formulating and sustaining new relationships has always been tricky, especially when one of those is with your mother-in-law. The relationship with your mother-in-law can be tricky because of the love you two have for the same person, no matter how different the love may be. But above all, if you wish to strengthen your relationship with mother in law or maybe your future mother in law, we’re here to help!

Here are 5 tips that you can use to strengthen your relationship with your mother-in-law:

1. Invest time

Talking and having worthwhile conversations are essential in strengthening any type of relationship. You can ask questions about your MIL’s life; how she was raised, the kind of struggles she faced while adjusting to a new household, how your spouse grew up, and what advice she would give for a long and happy marriage. This will give you topics to talk about and learn about each other more.

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These tips will bring you closer to your MIL. Image Courtesy: Shutterstock

2. Accept her boundaries

While spending time together, you have to be certain that you’re not being intrusive or invading her privacy. We all like our comfort zones and dislike it when people want to cross our boundaries. The best way to deal with this is to give time to your mother-in-law to know and trust you with her child.

3. Release ego and tension

Sometimes, bonding can be challenging when the other person remains reserved and unwilling to open up. Know that it’s only natural and not a reason to lose your calm. As you spend time with your mother-in-law, you might hear some criticism that were unexpected, but don’t let your ego get in the way. In fact, use the comment to make improvements in yourself and prove yourself to be better the next time you two are together.

4. Unleash your true self

In our lives, we have all heard that the best way to impress and befriend someone is by being our true selves. No relationship can thrive and survive all the tides of life if the foundations are based on lies. When you get the chance to be with your mother-in-law, try to be confident and project your true individuality. It doesn’t mean that you have to be impolite and egoistic. She’ll see the true version of you and she’ll evidently appreciate you in her child’s life.

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Make efforts to stronger your bond. Image Courtesy: Shutterstock

5. Spend time together

You can go out shopping, to spas, or even for evening walks together. Preferably, if the two of you do this one-on-one. This will give you time to bond with each other without any distractions and adulterations. Don’t be afraid to ask her out at small get-togethers and cook food together. You can also bond by showing interest in her hobbies and passions. The two of you will be able to let go of your guards and be more open about your emotions and insecurities.


One important thing to remember while being with your mother-in-law is to avoid criticizing your partner because a mother’s love is simply unadulterated. Always look for positive aspects you can find and appreciate in your relationship. Remember that this new relationship can be deepened and polished with constant care, understanding, and love for both parties.

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Devina Kaur is an inspirational speaker, radio host, and producer. She is also the author of the self-help book called "Too Fat Too Loud Too Ambitious". ...Read More

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