5 signs of an emotionally immature person who can wreck relationships

Being emotionally immature can hinder one's capacity to advance professionally and pick up new abilities. Keep an eye out for these 5 signs.
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An emotionally immature person is basically a person who behaves like a child. Image courtesy: Shutterstock
Aayushi Gupta Updated: 27 Dec 2023, 19:38 pm IST
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When we say someone is emotionally immature, we mean that they lack specific emotions and social abilities, and face difficulty in interacting with or relating to other adults. Simply put, emotional immaturity manifests itself as impulsive behaviour.

Insecure attachments, trauma, untreated addiction or mental health issues, as well as a lack of deeper introspection or self-work, can all contribute to this behaviour. It might appear as narcissism, self-centeredness, and poor conflict resolution.

Emotional maturity is described by the American Psychological Association as “a high and appropriate level of emotional regulation and expression.” On the other hand, emotional immaturity is regarded as behaviour that is out of control or inappropriate for the situation.

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Emotionally immaturity can lead to conflicts. Image courtesy: Shutterstock

HealthShots got in touch with Dr Sonal Anand, Psychiatrist, Wockhardt Hospitals, Mira Road Mumbai, to know the symptoms of emotional immaturity.

Here are 5 signs of emotional immaturity in a person:

1. They cannot keep their emotions in check

They have poor emotional regulation and have outbursts frequently. They may have tantrums and angry outbursts over small things. They have impulse control issues and act impulsively in difficult situations. They do not analyse the situation properly because of their lack of control and impatience.

2. They blame others when confronted

A person with emotional immaturity frequently seeks the easy way out by trying to shift the blame to others, has a hard time accepting responsibility, and plays the blame game. According to Dr Anand, “They prefer to keep their true emotional issues hidden and avoid talking about them. They use defensive mechanisms like projection and denial to calm themselves.”

3. They can have difficulty maintaining true relationships

They can face difficulty in maintaining true relationships, although they do not like to stay alone. Due to their overall lack of sensitivity, being in a meaningful relationship with positive outcomes can become difficult, and the other person might have to bear the brunt , mostly choosing to leave .

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Being emotionally immature can take a toll on your relationships. Image courtesy: Shutterstock

4. They may bully others to protect their feelings

If an immature person does not get what they desire, what will they do? The exact opposite of accepting someone’s choice. According to Dr Anand, those who are emotionally immature, are unable to deal with challenging emotions and may instead turn to childish play strategies to get their way. This destructive behavior can destroy a lovely connection or relationship.

5. They can have commitment issues

An emotionally immature person can have commitment issues and be irresponsible sometimes. They have a lesser sense of empathy towards others, which can be due to their egocentric thought process. They might not value other people’s perspectives and struggles. They might have difficulties in carrying out responsibilities due to poor time management and lack of priority setting.

How can you deal with an emotionally immature person?

People can grow and change. If someone close to you lacks emotional maturity, you might be able to teach them how to act more maturely. If they are unwilling to change, talk to a counsellor about self-care strategies for interacting with emotionally immature people. To determine if someone is genuinely emotionally immature or not, follow the signs and symptoms of emotional immaturity we’ve just shared with you!

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Aayushi Gupta is a health writer with a special interest in trends related to diet, fitness, beauty and intimate health. With around 2 years of experience in the wellness industry, she is connected to leading experts and doctors to provide our readers with factually correct information. ...Read More

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