When someone does not speak to you properly or disrespects you, it is bound to hurt. That’s a pretty common scenario. Everyone has something that they feel sensitive about, and if someone passes any sort of remark, it rattles them to another level, even if it’s reasonable. This is where the problem arises!
No, we are not undermining your feelings, but there’s one important thing to remember. Criticism is a part and parcel of life, and taking any sort of remark without overreacting or becoming emotional about it, is also an art. If someone criticises us for our actions and we do not take it personally, we protect ourselves from feeling hurt or ashamed.
So, how do we take things less personally? How do we protect ourselves from getting caught up in the web of emotions every single time? Well, worry not! We’ve got you some great tips courtesy Ms Anahita Singh, a mental health practitioner, that’s going to help you navigate through this situation.
“What’s important is what you think of yourself, not what others think of you. Even if you care, it only matters what your loved ones think. Don’t let the opinion and thoughts of acquaintances and strangers affect you in any way. The sooner you learn this, the easier it will be for you to navigate such situations. Your focus should be on building your sense of self,” she says.
If you like yourself and believe in what you do, other people’s comments or remarks won’t bother you at all. It is all about self-confidence and knowing your self-worth. That’s when you will be able to healthily manage relationships and maintain a work-life balance. If you find yourself experiencing low self-worth, work towards building it. Of course, it’s going to take time but it will benefit you in a huge way!
When people judge you, remember that it is rarely about you. “It is almost about them and their own issues. So, don’t think it’s you that they are targeting. It is their insecurities that make them behave in such a manner. So, instead of focusing your energies on them, try and understand what your triggers are, so that you can prepare yourself well in advance,” says Singh.
We generally tend to hold on to the painful experiences, but instead of learning from those, we continue to think of the hurt, and make ourselves feel worse. Do not let these experiences make you harsh or bitter, or make you repeat these patterns with others. That’s why it is important to let things go!
So ladies, follow these tips and make a difference to your life!