Why does the spark fade away in your relationship?

It's natural to not feel butterflies in the stomach after a few years into a love story, but here's how to keep the spark alive in the relationship!
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Devina Kaur Published: 26 Aug 2022, 21:08 pm IST
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The beginning of a new romantic relationship always brings in fireworks. You think about each other every moment of every day, send giddy, romantic texts all day, kiss more often and remind each other how much they’re adored in your life. Sadly, as the time passes by, you fail to see the sparks, find yourselves tired around each other and let those little things drift away that were once the highlight of your day. If you find yourself in a similar boat, think about how to keep the spark in your relationship. .

Here are a few reasons why the spark fades away in romantic relationships

1. Lack of friendship

One of the prime reasons is the lack of honest conversation with your partner. We refuse to talk our hearts out and expect our partners to understand our troubles and solve them miraculously. More often than not, they’re not as good of a mind reader as we deem them to be. Having an honest conversation about anything and everything is extremely critical in maintaining a healthy and fun relationship. Something happened at work, you ran into an old friend in the grocery queue, or you saw a cute dress on display that cost a fortune, talk about it with your partner and see magic. Friendship is a very important part of a romantic relationship.

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Friendship is a first step towards a successful relationship. Image courtesy: Shutterstock

2. Physical intimacy

Overtime, we get involved with our work and other aspects of our lives and put sex in the backseat. Sexual intimacy is as important part of a healthy relationship. Physical intimacy is just as necessary as emotional connection. If the sex with your partner doesn’t excite you anymore, create a safe space so that you open up with them so you can find a solution together. You can definitely experiment with toys, positions, and music in the bedroom. Spontaneity is appreciated but you can also schedule time for intimacy with your partner as seem fit for both of you. This way you will be able to connect with your partner on all levels and keep the spark alive in your relationship.

3. Gratitude

After being with each other for a long time, we start taking our partners for granted. This may not be intentional but happens nonetheless. Remind yourself how often you used to send cute texts at work, go out for date nights, or simply be in each other’s present and touch each other softly. These all are ways of showing gratitude towards your partner, it makes them feel important, respected and adored in the relationship. The more gratitude you give, the more you receive in return. Remind them of their importance in the relationship and how much they mean to you. Thank each other often – it can be in the form of shared service or buying presents.

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Pro tip for couples in a long-term relationship

Know that love doesn’t fade away but gets buried under the daily mundanity of our lives. You can do little things to unearth your love and the spark in your relationship will follow shortly after. These are some of the tips that you can apply in your love life to live a more fuller life.

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About the Author

Devina Kaur is an inspirational speaker, radio host, and producer. She is also the author of the self-help book called "Too Fat Too Loud Too Ambitious". ...Read More

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