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It is not surprising that female orgasms are one of the most searched topics on the internet. Blame it on curiously, lust, or lack of information—the truth is that female orgasms are still a mystery for many.
So we thought why not demystify this phenomenon by getting gynaecologists to answer the most Googled questions about orgasms.
So let’s begin?
Q1. What is an orgasm?
Long story short, orgasm is the sudden discharge of built-up sexual tension during the sexual response cycle. It is controlled by the autonomic nervous system which gives to the rhythmic muscular contractions in the pelvic region that we identify as sexual pleasure or orgasming.
Q2. How to get an orgasm?
“The clitoris is the go-to sweet spot for most women when they want to experience the pleasure and release of an orgasm,” explains Dr Mamta Pattanayak, a minimal access gynae surgery consultant at Fortis Memorial Research Institute (FMRI), Gurugram.
“However, the way one wants their clitoris to be stimulated might differ from person to person,” she says. For many women, it is stimulation of the G-spot that does the trick. For the uninitiated, your G-spot is on the front wall of your vagina, about halfway between your vaginal opening and cervix and feels kind of spongy.
But getting an orgasm also has a lot to do with psychological factors. Says obstetrician and gynaecologist, Dr Nupur Gupta from FMRI: “For some women it is important to be mentally be in that state to be able to reach physical satisfaction. Foreplay could be important for such people, to feel psychologically charged up and get in the mood.”
Dr. Gupta explains: “To talk about sex is still not a normalized discussion in a culture like ours. And since we don’t talk enough about female sexuality, most women do not know how to approach it or deal with it. This leads them to creating their own theories of their sexuality.” This lack of empowerment to talk about one’s sexuality or feelings during an intercourse is one of the trigger points for orgasm anxiety.
“However, there is no one specific place or skin texture to help you identify it, so the best way is to keep experimenting till you find that spot”, explains Dr. Pattanayak.
“It could also be as a result of added stress of performance and climaxing on time which adds on to the anxiety and can give you a headache,” she explains.
There is no biological reasoning as to why women take more time and effort to climax. Everyone’s body responds differently and everybody has different preferences when it comes to how they like to be sexual with someone. That’s why it is important to communicate with your partner and let them know what works for you.