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Here are 6 reasons why journaling your sex life can help

Published on:29 June 2021, 13:15pm IST
It might sound weird and bizarre at first, but if you start journaling your sex life, you will realize that these experts are making a good point.
Nikita Bhardwaj
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Have you ever wondered why psychologists and gynecologists ask you to journal things? Well, basically when you write things down, it gives you a better perspective about the situation you’re in. Just like any other kind of therapy, having a sex journal is also a good way to understand your sexual health.

In case you feel something is sexually wrong with you or your partner, then while seeking help, you can be clear with what’s bothering you. 

“Sex journaling is not only a way to document moments of pleasure and passion, but also an opportunity for reflection. It can be as detailed as you want it to be. Writing down about your sex life can help you go back and understand what what you really need. Are there any patterns? What does the foreplay look like? What do you enjoy more?,” suggests ace psychiatrist Dr Rahul Khemani.

Other than that there are a lot of benefits of journaling your sex life. Here are some of them:

1. A sex journal can help you process your experiences

A sex journal provides you a place, where you can interpret your sex experiences. Your experiences will guide you on how you have been feeling and what you are looking for. Even if you are not in sexual terms with someone, you can focus on your past sex experiences, sexual desires or even masturbation.

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“A sex journal can help you process your sex life, no matter how it looks like,” suggests renowned gynaecologist and obstetrician Dr Aruna Kalra from CK Birla Hospital, Gurugram.

2. It helps you become more self-aware

Sex journaling can help you become more self-aware and identify unhealthy patterns and mistakes that may be negatively impacting your sex life. These can be the boundaries you are setting for yourself, the justice you are doing to those boundaries, the partners you are choosing, the insecurities you might experience and so on. A sex journal allows you to see what all you like and what all you need for your sexual experiences, whether you are sexually associated with someone or solo.

“Yes, it makes you aware of what goes before and after the sexual encounter. Maybe reflecting on it helps you realise that you need non-sexual relaxation and downtime or that afterwards you need some time alone instead of falling asleep immediately,” says Dr Khemani.

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3. You might learn more about your sex drive.

A sex journal allows you to explore how you like your sex life, how sex feels for you and the reason why you are doing it. Tracking your sex life can help you assess certain patterns that influence why, when and how you want to or don’t want to have sex.

“You may feel aroused a week before your period or may feel pain after the cycle, you may like to have slow, sensual sex with your partner or may like to go wild – journaling all this will help you know how you feel during sex at such moments, and will help you to establish clear sex patterns,” suggests Dr Kalra.

4. It might make it easy to communicate with your partner

When you start writing a sex journal, you start noticing what you like about it and what you don’t. This makes your choices clear and helps you to communicate with your partner easily about them. Sometimes, people are not satisfied with their sexual connections but fear hurting their partner’s feelings, so they don’t really open up about their likes and dislikes. However, it would be better if they talk about it, as this will make their sex sessions much more exciting and fun.

5. It is a perfect place to record your sexual life

If you start writing a sex journal, you will not always have to run to your best friend to tell them about your experience. The journal becomes the perfect place to record experiences of a great night you had with your partner. Document each and every detail about that night – the touch, the feelings, the smell and the emotions.

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6. You can write about all your fantasies

You should write down everything you want to do in bed in your sex journal. The act you want to perform, the touch, the sensation you want to feel – everything! Write about your fantasies, write how you would like being totally under your partner’s control or mention what all is a part of your dream sex life.

“You can think of new things to try out. Fantasies that catch hold of you can be noted down without the fear of judgment or shame,” recommends Dr Khemani.

All in all, journaling your sex life is a good way to pull you up, when there is trouble in the bedroom. Not only does it prove to be of use in treating sexual disorders, but also when there is a lull in your sex life. So, try it out if you are in need.

Nikita Bhardwaj Nikita Bhardwaj

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