Remember those electrifying days in the beginning of your relationship when it’s almost impossible to keep your hands off each other? But if recently you have noticed a dip in those feelings then welcome the libido land.
Think of your libido as a complicated girl. At times, she’s in the mood and at times, she isn’t. And her fluctuations means your relationship with your partner is in limbo.
Now, science says that your libido is ruled by your brain. That’s why you feel butterflies in your stomach when you like someone–because it’s a chemical reaction that’s triggered by your brain.
In fact, a study published in the journal Frontiers in Human Neuroscience claims that our brain lights up the areas that deal with emotions, sexual drive, reward processing, and motivation when we see a picture of a romantic partner.
Now that you know sex and desire is actually begins in the noggin, here are a few other things about madam libido that you need to know:
1. We womaniyas peak later than our male fellas
Shun us for being stereotypical all you want, but this is science talking. The reason? Because we have less testosterone than men.
2. Low female desire is normal and it has nothing to do with you growing old
Desire and age don’t share a connection like we think they do. The study published in The American Journal of Medicine actually found that sexual satisfaction in women increases with age. So, stop blaming your age for your low libido for it.
3. Being pregnant can boost your libido
No points for guessing this as higher levels of oestrogen and progesterone urge the blood flow to move towards our genitals–heightening our desire to make love.
4. Alcohol can kill your libido
Skip that glass of chardonnay because it might hamper your sex drive. Too much alcohol can make your vagina dry, making penetration a painful affair.
5. Stress and sex don’t go hand in hand
When you are stressed out, your body releases hormones such as cortisol and epinephrine which decreases your sex drive. Delhi-based clinical psychologist Dr Bhavna Barmi, a clinical psychologist, also states that: “One of the biggest causes of hypoactive sexual desire might be depression. Fatigue is another cause that impacts our sex life.”
Now you know what causes low sexual desire, let us tell you how you can reignite that spark:
Yoga can be a big help
It’s a proven fact that making lifestyle changes can help you improve your sexual life. A study published in the American Journal of Lifestyle Medicine states it too. Try doing the cat-cow pose, downward-facing dog, and shoulder stand if you want to improve your libido.
Aphrodisiac foods are another alternative
You must have heard a lot about aphrodisiac foods but do they really work? Well, apparently if you make some quick fixes in your lifestyle and add these foods in your diet, then you can reap some orgasmic benefits.
The doors of therapy are also wide open says Dr Barmi
Our expert suggests that mindfulness can be a key player in activating your libido. She says, “That at times counseling is an effective way to resolve conflicts between both the partners where they can talk about their power struggle and other interpersonal barriers to erotic interest.” So, that’s another way to go about it.