6 reasons why you don’t feel like having sex these days

Published on:24 August 2020, 17:46pm IST
Has it been a while since your last bedroom encounter with your beau? Well, you can blame these reasons.
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stress can make your partner feel distant and affect sex life. Image courtesy: Shutterstock
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In an increasingly accepting and permissive culture one might assume that young women are having sex more than ever before. While that could hold true for many of us out there, some of our friends are undergoing a dry spell. And it doesn’t always have something to do hormones.

As it turns out, there are many different reasons why women stop wanting to have sex. Let’s check them out:

1. You are stressed out
It is difficult to get into the moment when you are stressed. It could be with respect to work, commitments at home, or future anxieties knocking at your doorstep. In any case, you can find it difficult to derive pleasure when you are not mentally relaxed. While it is said that sex is a stress buster, we might find it difficult to get aroused when stressed.

Also, read: 5 ways in which the covid-19 pandemic is hampering your sex life

2. You are on the pill
That birth control pill you have been taking to have carefree sex could actually be the one putting a damper on your sexual drive. Hormonal contraceptives are said to reduce the amount of free testosterone, a libido booster, in the body.

While the effect of it depends from person to person, some women are significantly affected by it. So, if you see a difference in your desire after getting on the pill, we suggest you to talk to your doctor about other birth control options.

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Birth control pills can really turn you off! Image Courtesy: Shutterstock

3. Your allergy and/or cold medicines could be making you dry down there
Lack of lubrication doesn’t always have something to do with your sex drive. Your medications could be the libido crushers in your life. Antihistamines found in allergy and cold medicines can cause vaginal dryness. This affects the libido for many women.

In such a case, you can use water and/or silicone-based lubes to save the day.

4. You are in pain
Experiencing pelvic pain and discomfort during sex can take a serious hit on your desire. It could be caused by anything ranging from an infection or spasm of vaginal muscles to lack of enough foreplay before intercourse. So, when you go on despite the pain, you tend to treat it like a chore and not pleasurable activity—and this can take a toll on your libido.

5. You are in a long-term relationship
When you’re in a relationship, sex becomes more accessible to you, without having to chase it much. And this may make you feel like you are being taken for granted. If you want to keep the bedroom experience exciting, you need to keep the chase alive.

Also, read: 4 ways in which depression is hampering your sex life and what to do about it

While you are at it, communicate more clearly with your partner about your needs and how you feel.

6. Distraction and sleep deprivation
We are a generation bestowed with digital distraction that often leads to an even bigger issue of sleep deprivation. And neither of these help your libido. When you are well-rested, your sex drive also tends to function more efficiently.

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