Can your vagina get ‘loose’ from having too much ‘sex’? Let’s find out

There are several myths and misconceptions surrounding the vagina, and unfortunately, people believe it too! How many of us have felt that our vagina will get ‘loose’ if we have too much sex? Moreover, in the Indian context, it is said that not having a tight vagina is a sureshot giveaway that you aren’t a virgin, and that means men won’t prefer you. Well, their loss then! But anyway, let’s get to the point — there is no truth to this. Yes, your vagina won’t get loose, even if you have loads of sex.

That’s because the vagina is elastic and pretty accommodating. Don’t believe us? We all know it expands to allow for tampons, sex, birth control devices, and then babies. Experts believe ‘loose’ is anyway not the right way to describe the vagina. That’s because it is made up of various muscles that can tighten and relax, based on the circumstance. 

Workings of the vagina

When you get aroused or are completely turned on, your pelvic floor muscles relax. When you aren’t, they tighten again. Yes, there are certain reasons why your pelvic floor muscles might not have enough strength. For one, childbirth is a major cause. Of course, popping a child is not easy, ladies. The other causes include menopause, traumatic injuries, and cervical cancer. In most cases, the strength of vaginal muscles can be increased with the help of Kegel exercises or pelvic floor physical therapy. 

Weakened pelvic muscles also cause urinary or fecal incontinence, and that’s a sign of concern. So, make sure you speak to your doctor right away. But don’t worry, because getting loose from sex is not even a thing. Go ahead and heat things up in the bedroom. Also, you need to worry about is having safe sex, and then have fun!

In fact, these myths have all been created by society. Have you ever noticed only those women who have multiple partners are given this so-called advice? Those who have sex with their husbands are never told anything about a ‘loose vagina’. It’s just about shaming women who are comfortable with their sexuality, and own it.

Also, no one will tell you this but tight vaginal muscles isn’t something to be happy about. That’s because it can make a sexual encounter painful or impossible. Extreme tightness could also be a sign of vaginismus, which is treatable.  

How to tighten your pelvic muscles

In case you find yourself worried about weak pelvic muscles, we have a solution for you: 

To begin with, you need to identify your pelvic floor muscles. Stop midstream while you’re urinating; in case you manage to, you have successfully identified the right muscles. Next, pick a position that you’re most comfortable in for your exercise; most people feel lying on their back helps. Next, tighten your pelvic floor muscles, hold the contraction for five seconds, and relax for another five seconds. Repeat this step at least five times. 

Let’s get to some exercises now:

1. Pelvic tilt exercises

Here’s how to do it:

1. Stand with your shoulders and butt against a wall. Don’t keep your knees too tight.

2. Pull your belly button in towards your spine. Your back should flatten against the wall.

3. Tighten your belly button for about four seconds, then release.

4. Do this 10 times, for up to 5 times a day.

Vaginal cones

1. Insert the lightest cone into your vagina.

2. Squeeze your muscles, and let it stay inside for about 15 minutes. Do this twice a day.

3. You could increase the weight of the cone, based on your comfort.

So ladies, the next time someone tells you not to have sex, go and have some more!