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Sex may have been hyped as something that is fun, steamy and intense at any time of the day, week or month! But it is common to have a low libido or sex drive at times, ladies. You may not always be in the mood, and it’s okay. While this may be true mostly during the menopausal stage, even younger women may find their sex life suffering. If you’re looking for ways to boost your sex drive, come let’s find out.
First and foremost, ladies, libido fluctuations are more noticeable in women due to hormonal changes in the body. You may have tried a variety of solutions to improve your low libido, but it’s time to quit making some of the mistakes that may be causing lack of sexual desire.
Health Shots spoke to Dr Sanjay Kumavat, Consultant Psychiatrist and Sexologist, Fortis Hospital, Mulund, Mumbai, to find out the causes behind low sex drive.
Sex is much more than a physical relationship, which is why communication is extremely vital as it can impact the overall experience. When a couple can communicate in a straight-forward manner, they can have sex that becomes much more fulfilling and enriching.
“Respect for each other’s feelings and indulging in foreplay can make having sex more enjoyable,” says Dr Kumavat.
Understanding your partner’s sexual expectations is just as vital as knowing your own sexual style. “Knowing each other’s likes and dislikes in bed is more crucial and demands solid communication skills between the pair,” adds Dr Kumavat. This can assist you in having more pleasurable intercourse, so never neglect this point.
Any sexual activity that occurs prior to intercourse is referred to as foreplay. It causes physiological and physical responses in both men and women that make sexual activity enjoyable. Skipping foreplay can lower your sex drive however, having it can help build emotional intimacy that can make you and your partner feel more connected in and out of the bedroom. Dr. Kumavat says, “Remember, sex is more than just physical attraction, so focus on foreplay and encourage communication so that it does not become a task.”
Keep in touch and follow up on minor acts of intimacy like kissing and snuggling.
This is a wrong expectation. Many women can’t seem to orgasm during intercourse. Expecting to orgasm every time you’ve had sex can disturb your mood. There could be a variety of causes, ranging from a lack of foreplay, and not enough clitoral stimulation, to exhaustion, stress or or many more.
Physical fitness and diet are important aspects of gaining a good sex drive. Apart from making you attractive, it also helps in improving your sex drive as ailments are kept at bay. So do not neglect them.
Don’t be shy about trying new things! Dr Kumavat says, “Newer approaches to achieving pleasure with your partner can be explored and experienced.” Experiment with various sex positions and engage in some foreplay. You should feel at ease with your partner and converse about what works best for you.
You may feel a reduction in libido and sex drive if you are taking certain medications, such as antidepressants, birth control pills, or high blood pressure medications. If this is the case with you, do not suffer. Instead, seek medical advice. Your doctor may be able to recommend a medicine that is less likely to cause side effects. Also, don’t suddenly stop taking your prescription because the repercussions of untreated disorders can be far more serious than a lack of sexual desire.
While a glass of wine can improve your mood, excessive or chronic drinking can have a negative impact on your libido and sex desire. The same is true when it comes to smoking. Arousal is reduced in women who drink or smoke. Reduce your alcohol consumption on a regular basis!
Finally, Dr. Kumavat advises against focusing on the same item during the intercourse. For a better experience, keep trying new things with your partner!